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Tänker du ofta att du borde förändras och bli roligare, smartare, lugnare, mer social eller vältränad? Eller att ditt liv borde vara mer spännande, aktivt och framgångsrikt? I vissa stunder kan den där totalrenoveringen av vårt liv som vi längtar efter tyckas vara inom räckhåll, bara vi håller ihop och följer planen. Bara vi anstränger oss tillräckligt.

I befintligt skick ger ett alternativt perspektiv. Författarna vägleder till förståelse och medkänsla för oss själva precis så som vi är, just så som vi har det. Boken hjälper dig att bli mer tillåtande mot alla dina känslor, även de som är svåra. Det är mänskligt, naturligt och viktigt att må dåligt när saker inte är som de ska. När du tar dig och dina känslor på allvar blir det lättare att leva i samklang med dina verkliga behov.

"Lyssna inåt och försök förstå varför du gör som du gör, föreslår de. Och var inte hård och dömande mot dig själv när du gör det. Att vi agerar som vi gör – hetsäter godis istället för att släppa fram känslor eller kollar sambons mobil i hemlighet – är våra försök att lösa konflikter inom oss. Vi vill helt enkelt bli av med obehagliga känslor. Och det författarna vill få oss att förstå är att dessa lösningsförsök förmodligen startade som nödlösningar på situationer vi inte kunde hantera på ett annat sätt just då."

Kattis Streberg i Södermanlands Nyheter86:Ta8b,

I vårt arbete med människors lidande får vi en fantastisk möjlighet att se mening i det vi gör – samtidigt ser vi sjukskrivningssiffrorna lysa rött för våra yrkesgrupper.

I Terapeuten i fokus får du som är verksam i ett människovårdande yrke, kanske för ovanlighetens skull, själv vara fokus för din vänliga uppmärksamhet. Att uppmärksamma vad ditt arbete gör med dig, när det ger och när det tar och på vilket sätt just du med dina unika erfarenheter riskerar att göra dig illa.

I stället för att i detalj redogöra för klienters bakgrund och livssituation vänder den här boken på perspektivet och låter samtalsbehandlaren stå i strålkastarljuset. Vad händer med oss i olika skarpa lägen? Vad behöver vi för att bli skickligare behandlare? Hur förhåller vi oss till klienternas, organisationens och våra egna krav och förväntningar? Det är få förunnat att vara självklart vänlig, lojal och medkännande med sig själv, särskilt vid motgångar. Vem kan vara mer misslyckad än en självhatisk och smådeprimerad terapeut?

Se den här boken som en inbjudan att vänligt och respektfullt granska några av de fällor, faror, hinder och möjligheter som kännetecknar människovårdande yrken. Varken mer eller mindre.

Sagt om boken:

”Att läsa denna bok kändes som en välbehövlig retreat. Med varsam och samtidigt uppfodrande guidning görs en genomlysning av olika komponenter i rollen som terapeut. Hinder blir tydliga, återkommande mönster begripliga och inspiration ges till hur man kan förhålla sig till utmaningar i möten för att hålla i längden som terapeut.”

Johanna Morén, leg psykolog, leg psykoterapeut, handledarutbildad i KBT och ordförande i BTF

”Vi vet att terapeuten är det viktigaste ”instrumentet” i psykologisk behandling och då gäller det att vårda det. Hur hittar man en bra balans mellan sitt privata liv och yrkeslivet? Hur behåller man sin nyfikenhet, på människor och på metoder? Många terapeuter kommer att ha glädje av de reflektioner som läsningen väcker.”

Rolf Holmqvist, leg. psykolog och leg. psykoterapeut

87:T545,

Vare sig du kämpar för att bli mer älskad, tryggare, mer framgångsrik eller något annat, är det som att målet hela tiden verkar flytta sig lite utom räckhåll. Det är aldrig riktigt rätt, nog, färdigt. Hoppet säger: ”Fortsätt, där borta, sedan.” Aldrig: ”Stanna, här, nu.”

Varför kämpar vi så? Varför tar det emot så att stanna, vara stilla, och tänka att det får räcka, nu blir det inte mer, och det är okej? Ett vanligt men oftast undangömt skäl är att vi drivs av ett hopp om att kampen ska ta oss till det vi längtar efter allra mest. Om jag bara presterar tillräckligt kommer pappa se mig, när jag blir ekonomiskt oberoende kommer jag vara trygg, om jag går ner tio kilo kommer jag bli älskad, om jag kan göra, säga och vara rätt kommer jag känna att jag hör till. Kampen kostar oss, men att släppa hoppet gör oerhört ont. Samtidigt är det först när vi ger upp det omöjliga vi får chansen att märka att något av det vi längtar efter kanske redan finns, här, nu.

Via skönlitterära vinjetter och psykologisk kunskap bidrar psykoterapeuten Katja Lindert Bergsten till en vänlig förståelse för det som driver vårt kämpande. Hon visar också på vägar att göra oss fria från det krampaktiga hoppet om det omöjliga. Fria att vända oss till det som är möjligt.

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